Your Bad Boss--be that a Finger Pointer Boss, an Incompetent Boss, an Egomaniacal Boss, or any one of the other freakoids allowed to wander the halls of power--is an expert trasher of self-esteem. Yours. Few humans can smash your self-confidence to smithereens faster or more completely than a Bad Boss.
Enough of that treatment, and you’re likely to buy into--at least to some degree--whatever ineptness your Bad Boss accuses you of. What a horrible thing to do to yourself! When you lambaste yourself, you contribute to the spoiling of your self-esteem, you deplete your personal power, you are your own Kryptonite.
"Most of us talk to ourselves in ways weʼd never talk to anyone else. More than likely, you are unkind to yourself when youʼve had a failure. You expect yourself to “get it right” — every single time. More often than not, you hold yourself responsible for the whole of the failure. You believe you should have seen it coming. As if somehow you can actually control everything. But, let me ask you – would you speak to someone else this way? Would you talk to them in an unforgiving, demanding, and invalidating way? Likely not. Were you to say it to someone else, you would almost see him or her shrivel up from the inside. A label given to another person can transform a personʼs sense of self and their ability to contribute and create. So can a label you give to yourself."
Restore your power! Refuse to accept any of the labels your Bad Boss has pinned on you. Improve whatever you need to do better, yes of course, but see yourself as constantly evolving, never as an undeserving flawed human. You are not that.
Now click on that phone booth app and grab your cape.