Your Bad
Boss--be that a Finger Pointer Boss, an Incompetent Boss, an Egomaniacal Boss, or any one of the other
freakoids allowed to wander the halls of power--is an expert trasher of
self-esteem. Yours. Few humans can smash your self-confidence to smithereens
faster or more completely than a Bad Boss.
Enough of that
treatment, and you’re likely to buy into--at least to some degree--whatever
ineptness your Bad Boss accuses you of. What a horrible thing to do to
yourself! When you lambaste yourself, you contribute to the spoiling of your
self-esteem, you deplete your personal power, you are your own Kryptonite.
Yet, as
business guru Nilofer Merchant so accurately points
out:
"Most
of us talk to ourselves in ways weʼd never talk to anyone else.
More than likely, you are unkind to yourself when youʼve had a failure. You expect
yourself to “get it right” — every single time. More often than not, you hold
yourself responsible for the whole of the failure. You believe you should have
seen it coming. As if somehow you can actually control everything. But, let me
ask you – would you speak to someone else this way? Would you talk to them in
an unforgiving, demanding, and invalidating way? Likely not. Were you to say it
to someone else, you would almost see him or her shrivel up from the inside. A
label given to another person can transform a personʼs sense of self and their
ability to contribute and create. So can a label you give to yourself."
Restore
your power! Refuse to accept any of the labels your Bad Boss has pinned on you.
Improve whatever you need to do better, yes of course, but see yourself as
constantly evolving, never as an undeserving flawed human. You are not that.
Now
click on that phone booth app and grab your cape.
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